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Entries in expecting a second child (3)

Thursday
Feb072013

HAVING A SECOND CHILD- SIBLING RIVALRY- LOVE OR HATE, WHICH IS PREFERABLE?

It's funny, most parents when they're expecting a second child worry that their first is going to get their nose out of joint, but not too many parents think they might have bigger problems to consider. Well if you think your worst problem is having one of your children being jealous of the other, try having a older child that loves her baby brother to "death." That's right, you think it's a bad thing that your older child might take exception to having a new sibling in the family, I worry that my daughter isn't going to smother her little brother with hugs and kisses.

We took the advice. We read the books. We researched sibling rivalry. In fact, my wife and I were determined not to allow our short-comings as first-time parents to undermine the relationship between our daughter and our unborn son. We knew we spoiled our daughter with attention. We knew our extended family- grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins- had put her on a pedestal, and we didn't want her to fall off once there was a NEW baby in the family. We knew we created a monster; an attention hog; a modern-aged brat. But we were determined NOT to let it all go to her head. We were determined to break the cycle before it got out of hand.

But how do you do that? You can't blame a child for your inadequacies as a parent. You can't allow a child free reign then one day reign her in and say "sorry, we changed our minds?" Or can you? Oddly, it's not that hard to undo a lot of the damage you do to a young child. If you create a monster, you can certainly tame one. So we did. We realized our mistakes and stopped a lot of our harmful behaviour. We stopped enabling a toddler and started engaging her behavior head on, and encouraging her to explore her independence in more constructive ways. But this was only part one of our problem. Now we had to figure out how to explain to her that she was about to have to share her space, her environment, her PARENTS with a so-called player to be named later (or sibling).

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Wednesday
Nov072012

Awaiting the Imminent Birth of Your Second Child- New Dad Style

What goes through a man's mind as he awaits the birth of his second child? Truth? Not much. But, that could just be me. That old saying about a man's life not changing much until the birth of his second child may hold true for some, but I've been hands on since the beginning. From the day my daughter was born I was the calm, cool, collected guy with a newborn on his lap, sipping a cold coffee and just enjoying the moment. Of course, having the easiest kid in the world helped. Never cried. Slept in her own bed and (for the most part) through the night. Yeah, my daughter's been an absolute pleasure... I'm sure my second child will be just as easy, right?

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Wednesday
Oct172012

The Fears of a Father: Awaiting the Birth of a Second Child

Seven more weeks (give or take) until the birth of my son, and it’s starting to sink in: I’m about to be a father of two. They say having kids doesn’t really affect dads until the birth of their second child- something about there being nowhere to hide and dads having to step up and be accounted for- but I’m pretty sure I’ve proven I’m about as involved as a father can get.  But, that’s not to say my life won’t be in for some changes, big ones at that.

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