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Oct132011

FODDER UP! PART XIII: TAKING A STAND AGAINST INFANT EAR PIERCING - NEW DAD STYLE

Now, take a deep breath, calm your mind, and listen to the story I am about to tell. It's about a little girl, only a few months old, who has been kidnapped and taken to the parking lot of a nearby mall. The kidnappers, two women in their late twenties/early thirties, drunk on power, unable to listen to reason, drag this little girl from the backseat of a minivan in to the mall. Inside, they make her do unspeakable things - they take her to a shoe store; a cosmetics counter; they even make her watch as they try on dresses... for fun. And then, if they hadn't destroyed enough of her innocence already, they inflict their final insult; their most heinous of horrific acts; their most evil of underhanded atrocities- they get her ears pierced...

Now imagine a little girl covered in the stench of THEIR rubbing alcohol, her EARLOBES covered in her BLOOD, and her face streaming, raining droplets of her own tears. Can you see it- her quivering lip holding back the screams? Can you see it- her blood red face holding back the tears? Can you see it? Can you see her face- this little girl covered in blood, and tears, and well-meaning intentions? Can you see her? Now imagine she's YOUR daughter...

(I love that movie)!

Gentlemen, where I come from, when a man puts his foot down his wife listens- or at least humors him. It's time to Fodder Up! Today's topic: allowing your wife to pierce your Baby's sensitive little ears. You may not win this battle, but at least you can educate yourself so you know what you're getting yourself, and your baby, in to.

Pros and Cons of Infant Ear Piercing:

You know why you don't want your wife to pierce your babies earlobes, but like most guys, so far, you're losing the war. My suggestion: fight fire with fire (in other words, let a woman, or a website for women, talk her out of it).


The Debates:

Yes. There's no point in explaining your thoughts on the matter to your determined spouse. It will fall on deaf (pierced) ears. So, if the pros and cons don't seem to do the trick, a good debate never hurts...

The Video:

Like a desperate man trying to pluck at the heartstrings of the women that he loves, when all else fails... cry like a baby. If you're lucky, your wife will be so embarrassed that she'll drag both you and your child out of the salon and you will live to fight another day.

More Video: (To Show Your Wife)

Gentlemen, good luck! You'll need it...

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Reader Comments (5)

ADAM! We are sooooo in sync! (And not like the boy band...) This is my biggest pet peeve, ever!!!!

The last straw was when I was set up as a vendor at a mall show on a lazy Sunday morning. Above the soothing drone of the elevator music and squeaking sneakers, came a blood curdling scream...the kind you would hear in a horror movie on steroids. That sound that makes every mom's hair stand on end. It was the wails of an infant in pain. Store owners and customers came rushing into the hall to find the source and offer aide...but what we soon realized was that the pain to this infant was being voluntarily inflicted BY HER MOTHER! I walked up to the piercing pagoda to find a young mother with an approximately 1 month old infant in her lap (I assume the baby's age because she could not hold up her own head) A teenage girl standing in front of them was pushing the baby's head back into the mother's chest and then trying to line up the piercing gun before the baby's head fell front again. Poor little angel baby was crying so hard that she periodically held her breath until another shrill scream escaped again. The shop owner looked on from a distance and laughed and the baby's father stood guard at the door (probably to keep enraged mothers from attacking his baby momma) I smiled and said "Wow, that's the most disgusting example of child abuse I've seen in a long time." to which the mom relied "Are you calling me a bad mother?!" "No, those were YOUR words...but as long as you're aware of it..."

It made me sick and I did proceed to engage a few more folks in the debate before I left...but the point is: That baby was experiencing the most painful event in her life so far and instead of her mother protecting and soothing her…she was causing it !

I think it's cruel, eccentric and unnecessary to put a baby or child too young to understand the process, through the pain and continued discomfort of piercing.
As adults, we can remove our earrings (and most people do) so the rods don't prod us in our sleep. Babies can't remove them, so they get to sleep with metal rods jabbing them in the head. YUCK!

Most parents don't clean them properly, so now they can get infected because babies puke and grab and scratch and pull at them (have you ever seen what a girl looks like with no earlobes because of severe infection? I have.)

And most importantly, it's not YOUR CHILD'S desire to have earrings! It's YOUR choice that you are imposing on them...What if they decide they don't want to alter or adorn their body at some point in life...you have destroyed that virtue for them without their consent. Not to mention the joy you will have taken from them by not letting them experience a "right of passage" into being a big girl like mommy and taking her to get her ears pierced WITH YOU because SHE ASKED FOR IT and knows what will be involved!

Your baby girl is beautiful enough just the way God made her...let her little ears alone and buy her a dress.

October 14, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterTara Kennedy-Kline

You had me at no Earlobes, Tara (well, that and the blood curdling screams). My biggest problem is they make the dads hold these poor kids... it's not a fair thing to ask of the man who is supposed to be this child's protector.

You make some very good arguments that I hope will make parents think before they rush in to doing something that they may regret later.

Thanks Tara!

October 14, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterFodder 4 Fathers

I pierced my daughter's ears at 2 weeks but my son's at 13 yrs. In retrospect, I should have waited to do my daughter's. However, I'm all for parents being educated when raising their children (piercing, circ'ing, bf'ing, etc). With that said, hubs has decided against piercing our future child's ears until s/he is old enough. I figured that I was being gender-biased to wait later for my son. For parents who want to do it sooner than later, make sure your child is young enough to not pull on the ears and be vigilant in keeping the area clean.

March 21, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBuddhagan

Reading Tara's comment makes me feel like she's saying any parent that causes their child pain is a bad parent. Shots, and Circumcisions fall in the category of inflicting pain on your child. I don't have any girls, but I had my son circumcised and if you want to hear a blood curdaling scream and see your child in the most pain they have ever been in... watch one of those. I don't think getting a little girls ears pierced is all that bad in comparison honestly.

November 6, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterSam

Today, however when I wear studded earrings, I canot sleep with them in. When I lay on my ear, the posts dig into the bone in my neck. How can a young child tell you that these things in their ears are hurting them every time they try to sleep? And some parents wonder why their babies cry all the time and won't sleep for long periods of time.

November 6, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterSusanne Quinn

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