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"How Did You Potty Train Your Toddler?"

So I’ve received a ton of e-mails from people who were curious about how I potty trained my daughter, so I’m more than happy to share the “technique” we used in our house. But I just want to preface the whole thing by saying that while I had heard that the way we did it was “the best” way, I really don’t think that there IS a “best way” and I am also convinced that every kid is different, so what works for one, will not always work for another. But here it is:

We decided to potty train our daughter after she turned two. My potty training process took 3 full days with a minimal amount of preparation, and a maximum amount of patience. So first, you need to dedicate three days straight that you are going to be at home. No trips in the car, no need to leave the house what-so-ever. So I chose three days in the spring that I would be on vacation and I knew that I would have DD at home. The night we were about to “begin” the process, I made sure that I got her all excited about the fact that we were going to be wearing underwear from now on. I even bought her Disney Princess underwear, because in case you’re not aware, my daughter is a Disney princess maniac and I knew that would REALLY get her pumped. So I kissed her goodnight and told her that I was so excited for big girl underwear day tomorrow (even though I was totally dreading it).

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What the Hell is a "Mom Cut?"

So for the past little while I have REALLY wanted to chop off all my hair. I have really long hair and, for as long as I can remember, my hair has always been that way. In fact, I am one of those people who cuts their hair MAYBE once a year – if that! But once upon a time I had all the time in the world to “do” my hair. It wasn’t a big deal to take an hour or so prepping and primping, curling and straitening, gelling and spraying in order to make my super long locks look perfect. But these days, with two jobs, two kids, and two dogs, spending two hours a day on my hair seems like a lifetime ago. I mean seriously, what parent has time for that these days?!? These days, I’m lucky if I don’t forget to brush my teeth in the morning! (O.k. that’s a lie, I brush my teeth every day. My father is a dentist. It was majorly ingrained into my head at a young age. I was just trying to paint a picture).

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A Mother's Moment - Realizing What's Most Important

In our day to day life we tend to get bogged down with just that – the day-to-day. Have you ever opened your eyes on a Friday and wondered where the week has gone? I know I have. There are times when I can’t even remember what happened the day before because I’m so concerned with what’s happening tomorrow. When our daughter was born I remember my parents and my friends with children telling me to enjoy every minute because it goes by so fast, but when you’re in the thick of it, you can’t really see it, right? When you’re spending all your money on diapers and daycare, you often ask yourself: "how much longer can this go on?"

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How to Get Around the Working Mom/Stay-at-Home Dad Stigma


Hello Mrs. Fodder! Just wanted to bend your ear on this stay-at-home dad subject. When my first husband and I were married, we talked a lot about him staying home and taking care of the kids because I earned more money than he did, and it was more beneficial for me to work than for him. I recall being quite all right with this concept and knew he would be a great stay-at-home dad. My only worry was what others would think. Would they think I was not a good mother and that's why we chose dad? Would they think that work was more important to me than my children? Would dad have a closer relationship with them than I would since I would be the one working all day? Have you had these same questions and, if so, how did you deal with them or what conclusion did you reach to help make your decision?

Thanks for your time!

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