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Entries in Parenting (12)


Wife of Infamous Gofundme "Help Me to Be a Sahd Dad" Speaks

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Someone asked me a little while ago, whether or not I was planning on writing another blog for Fodder 4 Fathers. Now while I really love writing stuff for Adam’s page and I would be happy to do it any and every day of the week, I find that my husband usually says most of it well enough. Some of you may remember my last blog (insert link here) responding to a whole bunch of women who weren’t too happy with him over something that he said (in my house we call that Tuesday). But because I completely disagreed with them and because they brought me into it, I felt the need to come to his defence. Not that he ever needs my help; he does a pretty decent job of defending himself on his own. So what I said was as soon as someone or something “ticked me off” again, I’d sit back down and bang out another blog. I do my best writing when I’m peeved and, as Mr. Fodder will attest to; this girl knows how to fight like a mo-fo!

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"How Did You Potty Train Your Toddler?"

So I’ve received a ton of e-mails from people who were curious about how I potty trained my daughter, so I’m more than happy to share the “technique” we used in our house. But I just want to preface the whole thing by saying that while I had heard that the way we did it was “the best” way, I really don’t think that there IS a “best way” and I am also convinced that every kid is different, so what works for one, will not always work for another. But here it is:

We decided to potty train our daughter after she turned two. My potty training process took 3 full days with a minimal amount of preparation, and a maximum amount of patience. So first, you need to dedicate three days straight that you are going to be at home. No trips in the car, no need to leave the house what-so-ever. So I chose three days in the spring that I would be on vacation and I knew that I would have DD at home. The night we were about to “begin” the process, I made sure that I got her all excited about the fact that we were going to be wearing underwear from now on. I even bought her Disney Princess underwear, because in case you’re not aware, my daughter is a Disney princess maniac and I knew that would REALLY get her pumped. So I kissed her goodnight and told her that I was so excited for big girl underwear day tomorrow (even though I was totally dreading it).

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Should Moms Worry About Their Sons Like Dads Do Daughters?

Image from Terminator 2: Judgement Day (1991)Dear Mrs. Fodder: Should moms worry about their sons the same way that dads worry about their daughters? My sons are little flirts, and every time I pick up my eldest up from school all these girls wave goodbye to him and I have to stop myself from giving them the stink eye. Do moms need shotguns too?

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Self-Medicated Mama?- Parenting with the Help of Pills?

Image Courtesy of Chatelaine.comToday’s blog post comes from a fan inquiry about the difficulties of being a stay at home Mom and the growing trend of “pill popping” amongst them in order to “cope”. It has been mentioned in the news that more and more stay at home moms are being admitted into hospitals and rehabs due to prescription drug overdoses or drug abuse (mainly anti-anxiety drugs like Xanax and Ativan). Do I believe it? Yes I do. Now here’s the thing: I certainly don’t believe that parenthood can be blamed for the need to take drugs in order to deal with stress and anxiety, but I can certainly attain to the fact that parenthood can DEFINITELY make you CRAZY!

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Becoming a parents is probably the most intense, most difficult, most stressful and most life/soul sucking thing that you will ever do (there’s lots of good things about it too, LOL). No matter how much we prepare to be parents, the truth is we are never really “prepared”. Parenting is really hard and it certainly takes a toll on your sanity. So I can understand why a person (man or woman) would feel the need to find something to help them cope. Now I am certainly NOT endorsing the use of any type of drug in order to be a better parent, but I can only speak from personal experience here, and yes, this is the place where I get a little personal.

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Mothers and Daughters, Oh My!

So this morning my daughter asked her father is she could have a sleepover at her “boyfriend” Wyatt’s house and it was at that moment when I went on line looking for the latest line of chastity belts! ;-) Now while I completely understand that my daughter sleeping at a boy’s house at this age would be completely innocent, and to be honest, I wouldn’t really have a problem with it, it got me thinking. Eventually my daughter is going to become a “real girl” and I have no idea how I’m going to handle it.

I think back to when I was a young girl and the memories are vivid! I can recall asking my mom if she could buy me some razors so I could shave under my arm pits. I was 11. She was reluctant because she didn’t think I needed to yet, but she also understood that I was getting to a point where things like that were starting to matter. So she ultimately said yes, but made me promise that I would only use it for my arm pits and NOT my legs. I will never forget her telling me that if I start shaving my legs now, that it would grow back even thicker and then I would be worse off than I started. I agreed to her terms and got my razors. That summer I went away to camp and after about 30 seconds of thought, I decided to screw what my mother said and shave my legs. I mean, everyone else was doing it so I wanted to do it too! She was right when she warned me about the fact that it would make it worse, but I didn’t listen.

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