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Entries in Fatherhood Involvement (2)


Wife of Infamous Gofundme "Help Me to Be a Sahd Dad" Speaks

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Someone asked me a little while ago, whether or not I was planning on writing another blog for Fodder 4 Fathers. Now while I really love writing stuff for Adam’s page and I would be happy to do it any and every day of the week, I find that my husband usually says most of it well enough. Some of you may remember my last blog (insert link here) responding to a whole bunch of women who weren’t too happy with him over something that he said (in my house we call that Tuesday). But because I completely disagreed with them and because they brought me into it, I felt the need to come to his defence. Not that he ever needs my help; he does a pretty decent job of defending himself on his own. So what I said was as soon as someone or something “ticked me off” again, I’d sit back down and bang out another blog. I do my best writing when I’m peeved and, as Mr. Fodder will attest to; this girl knows how to fight like a mo-fo!

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How Do I Get My Husband to Get More Involved with the Kids?


Hi Ask The Wife! How can I encourage my husband to be more involved? He would rather watch TV than help with the kids, and getting him to go places that are kid friendly i.e. zoo, park, kid museum is like pulling teeth.


I thought about this question for a few hours before I decided to answer it. Because if I’m being honest, my first response is: I have no idea. Of all the “problems” I have had with my husband (the way he loads a dishwasher, the way he cleans a baby bottle, his snoring), being an involved father is not one of them. But what IF my husband would have rather watched TV?... What would I have done? Well, if it was me dealing with this problem I would get creative with it. What would happen if your kids were the ones who asked your husband to get involved? Like, if you want to take them to the zoo, why don’t you have one of the kids ask him?... Those little buggers are cute for a REASON!! “Daddy, could you take me to the zoo today… pretty please… with a cherry on top Daddy?”… I mean, how could he say no?!??! He loves his kids, right? Well sometimes he may just need a little incentive (and by incentive I mean guilt) to get him going. We had these kids for a reason right? So use me to the best of your ability!! It’s a lot harder to say no to a sweet face with a cute voice, than it is to say no to your spouse!! Who do you think I send in to the bedroom on the weekends to wake my husband up? Yup! My sweet little 3-year-old. But on a more serious note, you might want to give your husband a friendly reminder that you got into this thing together… and you should probably be getting through it the same way.

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