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ASK THE WIFE - A DIFFERENT KIND OF ADVICE COLUMN 4 MOMS

By Jessica DolginYou've heard of Dear Abbey- well this ain't her. This is Ask The Wife, a fresh approach to answering those questions every mom has but is too afraid to ask. From "will my husband ever pick up his own underwear?" to "how do I tell my MIL to step the hell off?" Ask the Wife has an answer for you.

DISCLAIMER: Ask The Wife is for entertainment purposes only. It is merely the opinion of one mother and does not constitute expert advice in any way. If you find yourself in need of a professional opinion from a legal, medical or a mental health professional please consult with your lawyer, doctor or your child's pediatrician respectively. Fodder 4 Fathers willl not be held liable in any way for the misuse of the information provided. Note: If you are asking a question, please review the fodder4fathers.com submission guidlines and our terms of use section, All questions are posted anonymously.



Tuesday
May072013

Happy Wife, Happy Life - Moms Deserve Free Time For Themselves Too!

FAN QUESTION:

We have an almost 2 year old daughter and since her birth I have never really gotten any time for myself (I know parenting is a full time job) now my fiancé works and I stay home so when he decided to join some friends to be in a band I was ok with it since he works a lot and is the money maker in the family. He is gone two times a week and it’s usually very late. When I say that I'd like to go to the movies with a friend or just want to visit my parents (without the little one) it seems like I'm asking a lot. I feel like it always turns into a huge argument and then of course I never get time to out alone. How do I approach the situation? I don't think grocery shopping every two weeks should constitute as "time for myself"

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Friday
May032013

RAISING A PRINCESS - IS IT REALLY SO WRONG?

This blog comes as a result of a question I had from a mother who was wondering what to do about her 4 –year-old daughter who is OBSESSED with Disney Princesses. She asked me whether or not she should try to steer her towards a less “girlie obsessed” lifestyle, or just let her do her own thing.
 

Well, first let me just say:  WELCOME TO THE CLUB. My daughter could kick any child’s ass in the world of Disney Princess Trivia- I mean, the kid is OBSESSED! Walking into her room, you would think that it was hosed down by Princess Pepto Bismal!! Disney Princess bed, Disney Princess Sheets, a Disney Princess pillow, Disney Princess nightgowns, a Disney Princess doll house with every single Disney Princess doll living inside, Disney Princess shoes, Disney Princess slippers, Disney Princess underwear, Disney Princess t-shirts, Disney Princess hair elastics, a Disney Princess brush, a Disney Princess tooth-brush in a Disney Princess tooth-brush holder, a Disney Princess toilet seat, a Disney Princess back-pack, a Disney Princess umbrella, Disney Princess books, a Disney Princess piggy bank, Disney Princess stickers on the wall, a Disney Princess jewelry box filled with Disney Princess jewelry, Disney Princess cups, Disney Princess plates, Disney Princess cutlery, Disney Princess place-mats, Disney Princess sunglasses, Disney Princess movies, a Disney Princess couch, two Disney Princess dresses, she had a Disney Princess Birthday party, with an actual Disney Princess, a Disney Princess cake, with Disney Princess balloons and believe it or not, the list actually goes on and on!!

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Friday
Apr262013

How to control your swearing in front of your kids....

A Guest By Jessica Dolgin (a.k.a. Ask The Wife)
WARNING: FOUL LANGUAGE (Kinda)

This blog comes as the result of a question I received about a woman who has a hard time controlling her language around her kids. At first I really didn’t think that I was qualified to answer the question, but then I figured that I would be honest and accept the criticism I may or may not receive from others. So here we go…. A dialogue with my daughter the other day:  
Me: “Yup DD… F***in’ IS a bad word.
DD: “Oh?…. Mommy, is penis a bad word?”
Me: “Nope. That’s not a bad word babe.
DD: “Ok… PENIS...PENIS ...PENIS... PENIS!!!!”
Me: ``O.k. then…``

Bad words… our kids are going to learn them. Where are they going to learn them? EVERYWHERE!!! Now, if you ask anyone who works with and/or knows me, they’ll tell you I have the mouth of a dirty sailor. I like to say that it’s probably because I’m on the radio for a living and when you go on the air, you can’t swear. So I have all of this pent up vulgar language that I release each and ANY moment that the mic is off.

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Friday
Apr262013

How to Get Around the Working Mom/Stay-at-Home Dad Stigma

FAN QUESTION:

Hello Mrs. Fodder! Just wanted to bend your ear on this stay-at-home dad subject. When my first husband and I were married, we talked a lot about him staying home and taking care of the kids because I earned more money than he did, and it was more beneficial for me to work than for him. I recall being quite all right with this concept and knew he would be a great stay-at-home dad. My only worry was what others would think. Would they think I was not a good mother and that's why we chose dad? Would they think that work was more important to me than my children? Would dad have a closer relationship with them than I would since I would be the one working all day? Have you had these same questions and, if so, how did you deal with them or what conclusion did you reach to help make your decision?

Thanks for your time!

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Friday
Apr262013

How Do I Get My Husband to Find the Dishwasher?

FAN QUESTION:

Dear Ask The Wife:
What is the secret to getting my husband to locate the dishwasher, which is about 10.3 inches from the sink? Map?

ASK THE WIFE RESPONDS:

Map? Maybe, cause we know they will never ask for directions... But I prefer the cause and effect method… if he puts a dirty dish in the sink, don’t wash it… make him eat his next meal off the same dirty dish.

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