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By Jessica DolginYou've heard of Dear Abbey- well this ain't her. This is Ask The Wife, a fresh approach to answering those questions every mom has but is too afraid to ask. From "will my husband ever pick up his own underwear?" to "how do I tell my MIL to step the hell off?" Ask the Wife has an answer for you.

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Playing Favorites - Can a Parent Like One Child Better? (Guest Post)

Outtake from "Twins" (1988)Article by Angie B. a.k.a.

Growing up I constantly gave my mom shit for favoring my brother. Whenever he would walk in the room, her eyes would light up and she would screech his name with delight.  I wanted to puke.  I don’t remember being overly jealous, just disgusted by this bond they seem to have, it was like they had a secret hand shake that I wasn’t in on. Fast forward to the present day and I have four boys of my own.  Do I have a favorite? Do most parents have a favorite?  I think we do.

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Happy Boring Ass Birthday To You

If opposites attract, then my husband and I are like magnets when it comes to certain things. Parenting style aside, the truth is, we’re quite different and that certainly comes into play when birthdays come along. For me, I like grand heartfelt gestures. I like beautifully written cards and I like gifts that are laden with endless amounts of thought and delight. I like diamonds (I don’t ever get them, but I like them!). I like presents that are wrapped nicely with a beautiful bow and pretty pink ribbons. I like surprises. You get the picture. My husband, he likes “practical” gifts. He likes things that he needs that he could (and by could I mean ‘should’) buy on his own.

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"Hug Her? I Didn't Even Know Her?" - Giving Kids the Choice Over Who They Kiss

Recently, my husband contributed his thoughts to an article in MacLean’s Online Magazine about the idea of whether or not parents should force their kids to kiss extended family members that they don’t want to- you know, people like the grandmother with the giant growth on her face.  Sure, it’s just a harmless wart, but as far as a three year old is concerned, it’s a ticking time bomb that could explode any minute. Or, maybe it’s the great aunt with the yellow teeth and bad breath. We know it’s just the results of years of smoking and lack of vitamin D, but a child doesn’t see a woman, weathered by years of not taking care of her health; she sees the Wicked Witch of the West and can’t contain her thoughts: “She smells like farts, Mommy!!!”

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A Mother's Moment - Realizing What's Most Important

In our day to day life we tend to get bogged down with just that – the day-to-day. Have you ever opened your eyes on a Friday and wondered where the week has gone? I know I have. There are times when I can’t even remember what happened the day before because I’m so concerned with what’s happening tomorrow. When our daughter was born I remember my parents and my friends with children telling me to enjoy every minute because it goes by so fast, but when you’re in the thick of it, you can’t really see it, right? When you’re spending all your money on diapers and daycare, you often ask yourself: "how much longer can this go on?"

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Do Mom's Deserve Dad's Recognition on Mother's Day?- A Special 'Ask the Wife' Post

O.k. Mother’s Day… It’s definitely been a bit of a sore subject in my house since I became a mother, three years ago. So allow me to take you through my thought process and feelings on the subject matter. In order to do that, I need to take you back 3 years- the year that I was to celebrate my very first Mother’s Day. I was excited. I mean, I was a mother for the first time, and I was now a part of the “club”- you know, the “Mother’s Day Club.” My husband knew that it was important to me, but he also knew (and he’ll be the first to admit it) that I don’t believe in spending stupid amounts of money on a gift (cause let’s be real that money is coming out of the same bank account that I use too!). For me, it has really always been “the thought that counts.” Adam (Mr. Fodder) knows that, for me, it’s all about the card. What someone writes in a card is far more important than what is inside the box. (But something nice in the box is good too).

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