Have a question, a query or a comment? Send Mrs. Fodder an email to: Posters whose questions have been selected for print may or may not be contacted. All correspondence will be held in the stricted of confidence. New posts every Monday and Thursday.




« YOU POKED THE (MAMMA) BEAR | Main | Should Moms Worry About Their Sons Like Dads Do Daughters? »

"How Did You Potty Train Your Toddler?"

So I’ve received a ton of e-mails from people who were curious about how I potty trained my daughter, so I’m more than happy to share the “technique” we used in our house. But I just want to preface the whole thing by saying that while I had heard that the way we did it was “the best” way, I really don’t think that there IS a “best way” and I am also convinced that every kid is different, so what works for one, will not always work for another. But here it is:

We decided to potty train our daughter after she turned two. My potty training process took 3 full days with a minimal amount of preparation, and a maximum amount of patience. So first, you need to dedicate three days straight that you are going to be at home. No trips in the car, no need to leave the house what-so-ever. So I chose three days in the spring that I would be on vacation and I knew that I would have DD at home. The night we were about to “begin” the process, I made sure that I got her all excited about the fact that we were going to be wearing underwear from now on. I even bought her Disney Princess underwear, because in case you’re not aware, my daughter is a Disney princess maniac and I knew that would REALLY get her pumped. So I kissed her goodnight and told her that I was so excited for big girl underwear day tomorrow (even though I was totally dreading it).

Day 1:

First thing in the morning, the diaper comes off and the underwear goes on. Once you do this, there is no turning back. If you chicken out, you’ll cause confusion and the whole thing won’t work. Now here’s where the patience part kicks in. Every 5 minutes I asked her if she needed to go to the bathroom. I would bring her there, I’d put her on the toilet, and usually nothing would happen. I kept this up every 5 minutes until she finally peed… all over the couch (note: make sure you scotch guard before to potty train). Obviously she got upset and I told her it was ok. We went into her room (where she pee’s again all over the floor, and slipped on it) cleaned her up and I reminded her that the next time she “feels” like she had to pee, to tell me, and we would go to the bathroom. But again, every 5 minutes I asked her if she had to use the bathroom and I took her. Sometimes she would pee, and sometimes she wouldn’t.

Did I reward her for a pee on the potty? Yup I did. She got a mini M&M for a pee, and a bottle of piggy paint (kids nail polish) for a poop (which had not happened yet - she waited till nap time to leave me one of those). I also downloaded a “Potty Time” App for the IPad which she seemed to like. If she peed on the toilet, the girl on the app congratulated her and if she had an accident, the girl on the app told her what to think about the next time she felt like she had to go. Well, by the end of the day, I think we may have had two successful trips to the bathroom and the rest of my house was covered in pee. I was ready to give up and put the diapers back on, but I knew that it would only be worse if I did that, so I soldiered on.

Day 2:

The nighttime diaper comes off and the princess underwear go on… I will never forget. Literally the SECOND I put those underwear on, she peed in them. I wanted to cry, but I did the same thing I did the day before, and just told her that it’s ok, but next time, tell me you have to go and we’ll go. Unlike the day before, instead of asking her if she had to go and taking her to the bathroom every 5 minutes, I stretched it out to every 10 minutes. To give her more time to recognize the feeling and also feel as though she could be a little more independent about the decision. Day 2 was a little more successful. She was sort of starting to get the hang of it. She still had accidents, but there were MANY more successes. (Still no poop, but I was told that could take a while). I think that on day 2 we went through 4 pairs of underwear whereas on Day 1 we went through about 9! We were getting there!!!

Day 3:

Nighttime diaper comes off and princess underwear goes on. No accident. I stretched out the 10 minute increments to 15 minutes and there were even moments when she would come to me and tell me that she had to go. SUCCESS!!! Then at around 4 in the afternoon, we were taking our routine 15 minute pee break from whatever we were doing and to my surprise, when sitting on the toilet…. #2 (poo)!!! I was shocked and I was so proud of her! Honestly, who in the world could have ever imagined that the day your child takes a sh*t on the toilet would be one of the best days ever?!?! But if you’ve been there, you know what I mean, it really is!

So that’s how I did it. Now, that’s not to say that this method will work for everyone. It’s also not to say that my daughter hasn’t had an accident since then because she has. In fact, just the other day, she decided to pee all over her pillow because she “didn’t remember where the bathroom was.” She’s 3 and sometimes she’ll make mistakes. Unfortunately, her father who no longer has a pillow of his own, is now paying for that particular mistake. (I did the potty training. Him losing the pillow is the least he could do). In fact, I really really hope that he’s reading this right now, and learning something. It will come in handy when it’s time to potty train our son! Good luck babe!! ;-)

Related Article:

The ABCs of Potty Training: Getting Down to the Business of Doing Your Business

Share this with a friend?

Reader Comments (1)

Sounds like you guys used the 3 day potty training method like we did. It was brutal! But 3 months down the road now, and she's doing "OK" - everyone should note. Kids are NOT 100% potty trained in 3 days! It's a work in progress :)

October 9, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterRhonda B

PostPost a New Comment

Enter your information below to add a new comment.

My response is on my own website »
Author Email (optional):
Author URL (optional):
Some HTML allowed: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <code> <em> <i> <strike> <strong>