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What the Hell is a "Mom Cut?"

So for the past little while I have REALLY wanted to chop off all my hair. I have really long hair and, for as long as I can remember, my hair has always been that way. In fact, I am one of those people who cuts their hair MAYBE once a year – if that! But once upon a time I had all the time in the world to “do” my hair. It wasn’t a big deal to take an hour or so prepping and primping, curling and straitening, gelling and spraying in order to make my super long locks look perfect. But these days, with two jobs, two kids, and two dogs, spending two hours a day on my hair seems like a lifetime ago. I mean seriously, what parent has time for that these days?!? These days, I’m lucky if I don’t forget to brush my teeth in the morning! (O.k. that’s a lie, I brush my teeth every day. My father is a dentist. It was majorly ingrained into my head at a young age. I was just trying to paint a picture).
My point is… once upon a time, my long, long hair was great. But I started thinking: when was the last time that I wore my hair down? I can’t remember. When was the last time I put any sort of effort into making my hair look its “best”? I can’t remember. And it’s not because I don’t care about looking good. I do. I like to dress nice and wear makeup and all of those girly things, so it’s certainly not like I’ve “let myself go” or anything like that. I just don’t have the time that long, beautiful locks of hair require, anymore. So I’ve been thinking about chopping it off. But every time I mention it to a friend or family member, they insist that I’m succumbing to the “Mom cut” (like it’s a prison sentence or something). I mean, what the heck is a “mom cut”? Is it bad? Are you suddenly no longer “cool” because you’ve finally admitted to yourself that you don’t have time to take care of 4 feet of hair? Are you a loser because you cut your hair short? (Pretty sure Charlize Theron, or Rene Zellweger, would beg to differ). Absolutely not!

"If getting the “mom cut” refers to the fact that I AM a mom, then CUT AWAY!!"

In a life filled with poopy diapers, running around all over the place, play dates, screaming, tantrums, baths, discipline and the lot of it, I would just like to make one of the things that I HAVE control over EASIER. Imagine, being able to jump out of the shower, shake my head, and go! That would be amazing. Right now, the only thing I do with my hair after the shower is wait for it to dry into a frizzy mess and then it ultimately goes into a ponytail  (or as my daughter “DD” refers to it: a “bony tail”) until the next shower. So what’s the point of having all this long hair if I never wear it down?
Why is it considered “giving up” if I decide to get my hair cut short? I mean, what’s the big deal?!?! It’s JUST HAIR people (and as my legs and arm pits can attest to, IT WILL GROW BACK!)!

Charlize TheronSo let me just say this to friends and family who have warned me about getting the “mom cut”. If getting a “mom cut” means making my life easier so I can spend it on the things that are really important (like my husband and kids), then cut away! If getting the “mom cut” means that I can look like I actually took the time to do something nice with my hair, then cut away! If getting the “mom cut” refers to the fact that I AM a mom, then CUT AWAY!! Letting yourself go after motherhood means that you stop caring. Letting yourself prioritize your life while still being able to feel like a sexy mama, mean you start CUTTING! So I’m going to do it. I’m going to cut off my hair because it will make me happy, and let’s be honest, isn’t that what it’s all about in the end anyway?!?! Hell, I may even send along a before and after picture and let YOU decide what exactly a “mom cut” is.

...But you’ll have to wait three weeks. My hair dresser is really booked up. And that still gives my husband some time to try and talk me out of it. (Good luck honey – you’re going to need it!)



Reader Comments (4)

After my first son, I got the "mom cut". Personally, I hated it because, for myself, I felt like I was giving up on things that were important to me, ie: doing my hair, doing my makeup, things that made me feel pretty. Don't get me wrong, being a mom is the most important thing to me in the world, but part of feeling like a great Mom, to me, is feeling great over all. When I feel I am my best self, all the Hats I wear look and feel better too. I'm the kind of person that is selfless to a fault. I give till it hurts, so it's all too easy for me to put myself on the back burner. For me, the back burner is not a healthy place. It's lead to unhealthy relationships and friendships. For me, my long hair is a healthy reminder that I'm still giving the best me I can give and not the second rate back burner me. HOWEVER, some people don't have to have a visual reminder to take care of themselves first. It seems to me that you're just looking for a way to save a little time. In which case, no one should make you feel like you're doing a bad thing. :)

July 13, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterMel

I had long hair up until last October, and cut it all off into the "mom cut"! Lets just say it became more work after that. Do not cut it!!!!!

I finally caved to the "mom cut" (for me it's a shoulder length bob)--what can I say I had a complex--but it was a hard thing for me--you are absolutely right that it doesn't signify letting yourself go--just letting yourself prioritize! Thanks for the post!

July 13, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterKayla

I just cut all mine off and it is SO LIBERATING!! 5 minutes to fix my hair and I get compliments on it? Yes please! DO IT!!

July 15, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterDanielle

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