Fodder 4 Fathers: The Evolution of an Idea

How many men does it take to screw in a light bulb? Just one, if that light bulb is the idea behind Fodder 4 Fathers, one dad’s search for online equality in parenting. It’s a simple story really: it’s about a father trying to make sense of his new role as a parent and finding himself shut out again and again by Internet parenting forums that catered almost exclusively to moms. So what’s a man to do when he wants to learn more about raising happy and healthy kids, but all he finds is opposition and ridicule?--- He creates a place he can call his own.

And so the seeds for Fodder 4 Fathers were planted; a place where moms and dads could meet as equals, and talk about that which is most important to us- our kids.  Oh, we’ll admit we pretty much had no clue what we were doing, but we were on a mission to prove to the world- and ourselves- that dads mattered, and so did their input in to the everyday upbringing of our children. So we created a blog (not having a clue what one was) and we called it The Evil That You Know (, because, well, it’s better than the evil that you don’t know. And we just started writing about our experiences as a new dad. And, oddly enough, people started to like it and relate to it and talk about it.

Then we began to share our thoughts on parenting on Twitter and Facebook and LinkedIn and  quickly found ourselves immersed in an amazing community of like-minded individuals who just wanted to share a laugh, and war stories and tips on how to become better parents, whether we saw eye-to-eye on each and every little aspect of child rearing , or not. We had 800 fans by the end of that year. Now, just over a year later, we’re at 14,000 fans, and growing.


What do people like about Fodder 4 Fathers? It’s hard to say. Maybe it’s our common sense approach to the problems of parenting, or our ability to see things in a way that others might not, or our fun-loving attempts to always find the humor in situations that would make even the most seasoned parent want to cry? Or maybe it’s the people we attract- intelligent, well-intentioned, and well-informed individuals (moms, dads, grandparents, non-parents, parenting professionals, etc.) who like to share information, a laugh, and their own unique stories. After all, Fodder 4 Fathers isn’t about one man, it’s about the bringing together of parents- moms and dads- and people from all walks of life, from all over the world, to help one another to grow and become better parents by association.

The dream is now a reality and men and women, moms and dads, are starting to see that parents can talk as equals and be entertained and educated all at the same time. That was the goal of Fodder 4 Fathers and this website is the culmination of a lot of hard work and effort to create something we can all call our own- a parenting website for PARENTS, even if it’s often told from a father’s point-of-view.